My Valentine’s Day was uneventful. These holidays are sent by the devil to put a strain on relationships, I’m sure of it. A great gift from a suitor, and you think you’ve found gold, when he could be a jerk the very next day. Get ignored by someone who you think is awesome, and then you start second guessing the relationship and "where you stand." Valentine’s Day has an odd effect on matters of the heart.
I’m kind of in a zone. The guy I’m seeing and I could not be together. He’s working out of town. I had an opportunity to be with him while he’s working, but he made it clear he would be working. I backed out of the trip because it didn’t seem like there would be room for me while he works. On V-Day I "girled up" and needed more attention than usual. However, that wasn’t possible because he was working. Any other month, I could have handled it like a champ. But this month is rather extreme for me. My behavior is matching. V-Day didn’t help.
It took everything for me not to say eff it, round up my girls and go for a few rounds at the bar.
But of course, I can’t spend loot.
Staying in the house more than usual during this no-buy month has made me feel at peace sometimes but cranky, too. During the times I would normally be out and about, I am at home, crunching numbers and contemplating. Doing such things wreak havoc on your social skills. I need a better outlet. I’m just going to try to keep myself busy the rest of the weekend. I have a morning jog on Saturday and I have a concert on Sunday night. All these things are free and planned. I miss my life of surprises.
No-buy month is a good thing, I suppose. It can also make you WAY too aware of your relationships with friends, lovers, coworkers. I miss my spend-money malaise.
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Emotional spending…frugality’s arch rival. Stay strong! Have you ever seen the movie Roger Dodger? This guy is one of the best jerks on film – a copywriter who understands that you have to make people feel bad in order to sell them stuff.
Some of my favorite quotes:
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0299117/quotes
I’m a stay at home mom so I earn my keep trying to find free stuff to do! The library is a great place to check out (I know, probably boring to many) for not only books but movies and activities. Parks and rec in Broward has many free activities going on so I am guessing Miami would too.
Hey, I am willing to teach you to knit – and you can borrow some of my stuff til you can spend for yourself again.
Hang in there. I go thru shopping withdrawal in January after the Christmas-shopping-all-the-time-for-something season is over. You can’t spend much if you don’t go to the store, right?
You fell for the V-Day scam?! Aww, man. Say it ain’t so!
You know you don’t even want that stuff anyway. You really just wanted him and he couldn’t be there.
You should’ve called your girls anyway and had them take YOU out. After all, you were the one who needed cheering up. Nothing wrong with celebrating the love you get from your friends when your significant other’s not around!
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and sorry to hear about your less than awesome v-day. I just wrote a post on our blog about the ridiculous amount of money my guy and I spent this weekend. I know we would’ve had fun together no matter what we did or how much money we spent, so in retrospect I wish we didn’t go to so much trouble. Oh well…
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I was frugal. I bought my guy a giant Hershey kiss and using a label machine replaced all the references to “Hershey’s” with my name.
He on the other hand was not frugal and I appreciated that. He bought me two dozen roses and chocolates and we went out for a very expensive dinner. He’s usually frugal so I appreciated the small splurge.