Is Your Love Muffin a Credit Abuser?
Blogger Connie Prater sent me over this link about how to tell if your boo is deep in credit card debt. It’s the 11 Signs Your Mate has Credit Problems. I know I carry a credit card balance, but I’m not as bad as the mythical person in her post. I’ve bought a meal or two for a friend, but rarely do I buy a round of drinks. My drinking fund will not be compromised. heheh.
Now, I DID go on a date with a gentleman, who wanted to order the entire menu at a sports bar and drink Patron. Did I mention he was a former athlete? So anyway, after grubbing away, the bill came. Gold card declined. Instead of walking over to the ATM machine in the complex, said guy asked me for $20!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Because I was looking too cute to wash dishes that night, I gave it to him. HE NEVER OFFERED TO PAY IT BACK. Trust, I don’t communicate with the ex baller anymore. It was only a second date. I guess the previous Thai lunch date drained his account. I dodged a bullet on that one.
Do you know any people who are maxed out on credit? What are some of the signs?
Happy Friday
12 Responses to Is Your Love Muffin a Credit Abuser?
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I remember years ago a girlfriend telling the story of going on a cruise to the Bahamas with a guy. When they got there, he informed her that he didn’t have any money. Zilch. Nada. Nothing…Needless to say, it routined the romantic weekend. I wonder if there were warning signs before the trip that she didn’t pick up on.
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How funny! I’d be furious if a date stuck me with a $20 tab for his drinks and didn’t offer to pay back. Luckily most of my friends who are maxed out are wise and have just cut back their spending as much as possible, though I do have one friend living in NYC with major credit card debt, yet she buys Jimmy Choos….
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Hey Frugalista,
Shortly after Grant Hill and Tamia wed he told the story of “the test” he used to see if Tamia was right for him. They went out to dinner and everything was great but when the bill arrived of course he had no money (he planned this to see her reaction). She said no problem, picked up the tab and she didn’t have an attitude about it. He was so impressed with her kindness and the fact that she wasn’t upset that he became even more interested in getting to know her.
Do you think your ex athlete date was testing you or was he just looking for a free meal? Men have certainly changed, I can say that much. I agree with the signs posted by Connie.
And ladies please check the shoes, some guys like to be ballers from head to ankle, but if their shoes scream BUDGET he may not have the funds he claims to have…just another thing to look for ladies.
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Charger(Not)-Your friend should have cast said man out to sea
Austinwriter-Are we friends? Because I have scaled back like your friends. There’s nothing wrong with cutting out free spending ways. But there’s something wrong with being a broke tail in Jimmy Choos.
PJD- Eh, Grant still plays in the league and is total eye candy. Tamia knew he had loot. But honestly, Grant’s little test would be a turn off for me. I’ll take a regular guy with a good heart who is not scared to take a risk on a meal with me. As for the ex-baller, I wasn’t mean or rude. I just stopped taking his calls. If I were to see him now, I’d be happy. I just wouldn’t go on a date with him. The $20 didn’t pay for the meal. The tab was over $100 because he wanted to floss. I had to give him a $20 partial scholarship so I wouldn’t have to wash dishes.
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Now see, in Grant’s case, he didn’t have his credit card declined. That’s ok. That was a good test. But a dude having his card declined is a sign to run away.
A broke baller. LOL
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If a man did that to me, I wouldn’t talk to them again — I want a guy to take care of me, not be a constant surprise. Have I picked up a tab while a guy I was dating was, maybe say in the bathroom or something as a surprise? Yes.
The husband and I’s gift to each other before we got married was to have our CC’s paid off, minus wedding expenses. That didn’t mean much to me, but for him it meant a lot of work. I was glad we did.
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You should’ve never agreed to pay that bill. He invited you. That’s why I always leave my wallet at home when I go on a date. If a guy ever asks me for money, I say, “I’m sorry a wallet doesn’t go with this outfit.”
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That is hilarious, If I was her, I would have excuse myself and went to the bathroom and headed straight to my car!!! LOL
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I have a habit of fixing up the finances of men I date. Generally speaking, people know very little about personal finance. I’ve repaired more credit than Debt Solutions. Now if only I can get one to stick around once he crosses the 700 mark :-/
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Gold card declined? Then I must be doing very good. I took a woman on a date to a $100 dinner for two to a soul food restaurant, and later we did a $50 dinner for two at a steak and brew, and I am still paying back the cards in full every month.
She is a lucky woman.
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No I ain’t eye candy. I am about 100 lbs. overweight and my mind runs on a different operating system than yours: Asperger syndrome. But when I get married I won’t have to work very hard giving her a clean slate. Maybe I ought to make sure her slate is clean her self.
Charger (Not)