Find Out If He’s a Cheat for Cheap
Today, we have a guest blog from dontdatehimgirl.com creator Tasha Cunningham. Tasha launched the website that creates fear in mankind. Tasha offers up some cheap tips on how to catch your boo cheating. I read through them. I must say, she’s serious. I’m not sure if I would go to these extremes. I believe in women’s intuition. Sometimes, though, a girl needs proof.
1. Monitor his computer usage. You can do this by installing key logger software, which allows you to monitor every keystroke he makes on his computer including every e-mail he sends and receives, every instant message or text he gets and every website he’s visited. For less than $100, you can buy the popular WebWatcher software at www.WebWatcherNow.com or log on to www.ActualSpy.com and download their key logger software for free!
2. Monitor his cell phone. If he’s cheating, he’s probably using his cell phone to do it. If you get your hands on it, you can check out who owns numbers that you don’t recognize by doing a reverse phone look up. While there aren’t any companies that perform this service free, at a cost of $4.95-$14.95 per number that you look up, it’s still a cost-effective option. Try www.ReversePhoneDetective.com, which charges $14.95 to look up a number or AT&T’s www.AnyWho.com, which charges just $4.95 to look up a number and furnish you with information on who owns it.
3. Conduct your own surveillance. Doing it yourself saves you the cost of a private investigator. But before you do, invest just $10.85 and purchase a copy of The Private Investigator Handbook : The Do-It-Yourself Guide to Protect Yourself, Get Justice, or Get Even by Chuck Chambers, a 22-year vet of the P.I. business. You can also buy another great book called The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Private Investigating by Steve Kerry Brown for $12.89 on www.Amazon.com!
What do you think about Tasha’s tips? Are they a community service to women? Are they stalkerific? Do you have any frugal ways to find out if your spouse is cheating? Comment early and often!
24 Responses to Find Out If He’s a Cheat for Cheap
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If you’re at the point where you’re considering doing any of these stalkeriffic behaviors then you probably already know the answer to your question. Yes, he’s cheating! Save your money and move on.
Trust your mate or leave him/her alone.
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@ AJ: Couldn’t agree more. This has to be about the craziest ish I’ve ever read, and really, what does it have to do with being frugal? Bottom line is this: if you’re dealing with somebody who’s cell you need to tap, who’s email you need to hack into, you need to be looking in the mirror and seeing what the hell is wrong with YOU to have somebody like that in your life. We won’t even get into the fact that half of what she suggests if borderline, if not outright, illegal.
Frugalista, you know I luv ya, but you’re wack today for lending this chic the legitimacy of your blog.
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Agreed. Any relationship that has me feeling that paranoid isn’t worth the trouble of a reverse lookup.
OK, I did have a co-worker who studies graphology review a few signatures, but that was free and just for compatibility
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I always look at things from the other angle: Do I want my partner installing key logging software and ganking my cell phone? Hell to the power of no.
Golden Rule: Treat others like you want to be treated. Including your hunnybunny.
(Best way to not have your sig.other cheat on you? Be like me: don’t have a sig.other!)
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Cheapest way – find a decent man to start with!!
And if you can’t find one, take pride in who you are, and don’t settle for a man that isn’t a good man!
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Whooa Nelly, put the claws back in bloggers..lol I know we love all things Frugal but your credit card bill isn’t going anywhere..lol I think Frugalista just wanted to switch it up a bit. And for those looking for a frugal spin on things, think of this post as how NOT to spend your money…lol
OK No I would never in life resort to anything that she has mentioned…it is insane in my book. If you need to do any of the above, you already know something is going on. I
I heard of this site a few years back and I think she was sued by either an attorney or some executive who was featured on her site. I think he lost….who knows.
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$ out of .15 is on point. All these ways to catch somebody cheating is sooooo extra.
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Also this is an inexpensive way tto see if your significant other is featured on the site, you don’t have to spend a dime…I wouldn’t do that either by the way.
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If you feel the need to do all of that perhaps you don’t need to be with him. Doing all of that is the same as a job without benefits. Who has that much time to waste? Time is money.
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My stars. What have you people put in your cornflakes this morning? LOL. For every poster who says they aren’t down with it, there’s 100 more people in agreement taking notes!
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See! This is why I always use someone else’s computer and cell phone and never give any of the women I mess with my real name.
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I don’t know what Tasha’s story is, but I can’t be mad at her finding a way to turn a profit from bad relationships. It’s a nice alternative to emotional spending.
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@ coco: you hit the nail on the head . The real deal here is this chic has pretty found a way to exploit other people’s bad choices for profit. Sucks for them.
@frugalista: you’re right. there are hundreds of people right now taking her cues and ordering software. Those are all the ones I said needed to have a look in the mirror.
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@Still Broke, please set up a blog, your comments are too funny I need to read them daily..lol
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Stalkerific? I don’t think so. If you suspect your man of cheating, how else are you going to get the proof? I agree with Cynthia. I think it’s only men on here raising hell about these tips, especially the guy who said time is money. Really? What about time wasted by a woman with a guy who’s cheating? Is that women going to get back the time she wasted? I don’t think so and if these tips can save women time, then I’m all for it.
P.S. — To those who said this woman was making a profit from her site, you must not have read up. She actually donates the ad revenue from the site to women’s charities right here in Miami, like the Women’s Fund of Miami to help women who are victims of domestic violence. Here’s the link as reported by Reuters – http://www.reuters.com/article/pressRelease/idUS200597+13-May-2008+BW20080513
She’s also got two other women’s websites that she runs including a beauty and fashion site that helps women find the best, cheapest organic beauty products around. So in my opinion, she’s doing a service to women everywhere with http://www.DontDateHimGirl.com by letting them find out if a guy is cheating and giving advice on what to do about it.
Thanks Frugalista for the great guest blog. Now, please invite someone to talk about how to find the cheapest gas in Miami! :0)
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@Coolchick
I’m glad she donates the revenue to charity, although the “report” you cited by Reuters is actually a press release and doesn’t specify how much goes to nonprofits. Either way, if that’s what she does, great for her and great for charity.
But that’s irrelevant to the argument about how helpful this site might be to someone in a relationship. The way her site works is if you’ve had a bad experience with someone, you can post about them so other women can find out about the person and cross him off the list.
Yes, she has been sued and though I don’t know about the outcome, I can understand why. It’s about as close to libel as you can come: facilitating a place for people to say unsubstantiated things that could materially harm someone else’s reputation. How many jilted lovers out there are not above straight lying about somebody to get “revenge”?
They have a word for men who spy on women they think may not be faithful: “stalker”. Is encouraging that REALLY a service to women everywhere?
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Stop hating! The site is a service. It’s no different than this forum on the Miami Herald that you’re blogging on right now. You can say whatever you want about anything include the site. You could blog here out of revenge. Is it the Miami Herald’s responsibility to check out your motivations before you post? C’mon! Absolutely not!
The Miami Herald, like DontDateHimGirl.com, is simply a public forum where women can talk about the guys they’ve dated. It’s no different than Facebook, MySpace or any other online forum out there.
You can make unsubstantiated posts about anything and anyone on this very website! It’s no different than any other review site, except guys are pissed because they’re the one being reviewed!
Ever heard of Yelp.com, where people review restaurants? What if one person gave a restaurant a bad review out of revenge? Is it Yelp.com’s responsibility to govern their users actions? No, they simply provide the forum, post the rules for blogging there and encourage their users to follow them. That’s all any owner of a public forum can do. It’s the nature of social working, not the fault of DontDateHimGirl.com.
The only reason this site gets flack from men is because it has to do with dating and the age-old battle of the sexes.
Stalker? Oh please! Using software to find out if your guy is cheating is nothing new. People use software in every area of their life with today’s technology. So I don’t think if you have suspicious that your man is cheating to install software on it that will give you the answer you’re looking for, which, if he is cheating, could save you years of heartache and pain in a bad relationship.
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Um, wow! I’m late, but that is so over the top. I don’t think we can compare restaurant (which hundreds of people go to a day) reviews to two or three people slamming one person.
My person opinion is women have been taught to question their intuition to the point where they rationalize engaging in the above-mentioned activities, which are quite out of hand.
As a young adult female, I don’t have time for that foolishness. I have a full-time job and all that gas and phone look-up money can go in my ING account.
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Tasha is insecure and has way too much time on her hands. I wouldn’t want to be her mate or her date for that matter…
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Tasha is insecure and has way too much time on her hands. I wouldn’t want to be her mate or her date for that matter…
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Tasha is insecure and has way too much time on her hands. I wouldn’t want to be her mate or her date for that matter…
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A friend of mine lost a woman because of her insecurities. She kept looking at his cell and sneaking into his emails. The dude is a good guy. So ladies if you want to risk losing a good man — spend away!
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Here we go again!
And Dave, how exactly do you know Tasha and all the websites she runs, and the charity work she does?
How exactly do you know she’s insecure? You don’t! It probably just makes you feel better to say things about people you don’t know. That’s pretty sad. You must be a very lonely guy with enough time on your hands to post your crap three or four times.
At least on DontDateHimGirl.com the women ACTUALLY dated the guys they’re talking about.
I and two of my girlfriends just checked out your blog and IT SUCKS!!! Don’t Date Him Girl is a WAY more interesting read any day of the week! Oh and right on the site, it says that Tasha has been happily married to a great guy for years!
So, based on just your comment, since I don’t know you at all, I’m going to write that Dave Lucas is a jerk and no one I know would ever want to be his date or his mate for that matter! Oops, if I did that I’d be just like you, right? That wouldn’t be good.
P.S. — Dave’s blog is just a bunch of ridiculous, useless drivel and what’s worse, he probably doesn’t donate ANY of the revenue he makes from it to charity to make the world a better place for as many people as he can.
Do you Dave?
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My male readers have stepped out from the shadows. I thought I had mostly female readers, but now I know otherwise.
AJ