Would you date to save money?
by frugalista on June 4, 2009
Wow! I ran across this blog post on facebook about how in this spotty economy, some women may be more likely to take a date from a guy they have no interest in for financial reasons. I mean, dinner and drinks can get expensive. Some women are open to the "dating meal plan." Hmm. If you like the guy, you would probabaly be flattered if he splurged on a nice date, no? It becomes a little prickly when you take the freebies from the guy who you have zero interest in! That's how feelings get hurt and bitter love songs get made.
I think it depends on your dating style. Some women date just to have fun, others to try to meet their soul mate.
Honestly, it can make a difference in your lifestyle if you date a traditional guy who pays the majority of the time.
What do you think? Have you ever gone on a "first-of-the-month-date" because money was tight and you wanted entertainment/ a warm meal? Is it tacky? Do you split the bill when you go on a date?
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{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }
No way, that’s so tacky. Why would you pretend to like someone only to score a free meal?
I’d like to say I could or would, but it’s really not my style. I’ve joined the dating ranks, but I honestly couldn’t just go out with a guy just cause my fridge was empty. I did try that once or twice in college, but now that I’m a grown up …. And splitting the bill? That used to be my style, but my dating mentor, in addition to Steve Harvey’s recent dating book has advised me against it; and it’s working for me!
I wouldn’t date for food/entertainment, but will admit that it’s a nice perk…sue me.
I rarely split a bill within the first few dates, unless I have no intention of seeing the guy again. Sometimes it’s nice to call it even and hope our paths never cross again.
Way back in the 1970s (I’m old!) there was a TV show called “One Day at a Time” about a divorced woman with two teenaged daughters who was raising them on her own. The daughters were McKenzie Phillips and Valerie Bertinelli.
When the mom found out about how the older daughter was going out with guys to score meals, she taught her a lesson about self-respect and respect for the guy, and basically telling her she was selling herself, and cheaply.
I think the lesson holds up.
Women have been doing that since the beginning of time
Conpact Queen, I’m with you on that!!!
Date someone because you like them. Otherwise, it’s too close to being that other type of woman that takes money for particular activities with men!
Natalie, I appreciate your compassion for women with empty fridges, but maybe they should learn to cook something cheap, like beans and rice!! It’s better to have know-how than no know-how!
Dang straight!! This totally got me through college — i don’t think I ever paid for a movie!
But — its very common for Mormons to date many men at once — without being called a player. So maybe Utah culture has evolved differently.
Compact Queen, I agree with you. I always offer to pay and if the guy insists on paying on the first date, I make sure I pay for the next one. It makes me feel independent and like I don’t owe anyone anything!
For me : one of the great romantic date ideas is to spend it out with nature. Go on a picnic trip in a secluded area with a great view. Or a candle lit dinner in your own backyard, patio or terrace. Use the stars as your backdrop and the candles to create intimacy.
LOL great post. I think the “first of the month” date is beyond tacky. It’s really using another person plain and simple, and doing so is just wrong. That is just horrible….poor guys.
Honestly, its not tacky. Who says the guy just doesnt want to be seen in the company of a beautiful woman. I have the blessing of being taken care of by an older man, and I dont have to do anythng with him physically. It is a recession and who doesnt like free money and lavish gifts , dinners, and outings? Step off your high horses ladies.
*fyi, I am a college graduate, with honors, as well as a working professional. So, no, I’m not a lazy so-and-so looking for a handout. Just using my mental capacity and my looks to get what I want.